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For love of a furry child…

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It’s been too long since I’ve posted on this blog, but 2018 has turned out to be quite a roller coaster, much of which has plunged and twisted.  And this was the case this week when our two- year old cat, Hudson went to have a teeth cleaning, and ended up having fourteen teeth removed.

Yes, I said fourteen.

Turns out that Hudson has stomatitis.

We had no idea.

Yeah, he had putrid breath.  But there was no drooling, no crying, and he was still so affectionate that we never thought that something so serious was happening.  And he is two.  Two.  That’s it.

Yes, he is a rescue.  We believe in rescuing cats rather than paying a breeder.  Hudson and Ripley are both rescue cats who spend most of their time inside.  Our last cats were the same and we rarely took them to the vet after the one almost died because of a vaccination.

Last year when I blew out my right knee, money was tight.  We didn’t take the cats for a check-up.  Not when it usually costs about $400.00 for the two of them.  And I wasn’t so sure that it was needed.  So we put it off.

Until now.

I would be lying if I didn’t confess that the thought of a $2000.00 vet bill didn’t make me pause.  Colleagues gasped, “You’re gonna spend that on your cat?”   And yes, for a moment, euthanasia crossed my mind, especially after googling stomatitis.  I don’t want any animal in pain.  For a brief moment I wondered if the Vet would adopt him.

And then I remembered that he is one of our furry children.  We would do anything for our son.  Anything.  I am sure you would too.

When we adopted Hudson, we heard this horrible story about how he and the rest of the litter were locked in a barn so their mother could not feed them.  The Farmer/owner left them to die.  A rescue group was called and they went in to take the litter of kittens.

And when we adopted him, we made a vow to care for him.

Even if that means a ton of money.

Children are expensive.  And when we have them in our lives, in our families, and in our society, we have taken a vow to raise them and care for them the best that we can, furry or not.

Recent events have made me believe that we are living in the Upside Down from STRANGER THINGS.

Are we really taking care of our children when so many don’t have enough food, live in shelters, and are victims of abuse?  Is putting guns in the hands of  teachers who job it is to TEACH them the best answer?  Do our schools need to have every door locked with an armed cop roaming about?  Isn’t that a prison?

As Americans, we’d better figure this out.

The problems our society faces are too complicated for a simplistic answer.  And when we fail our children, we fail as a nation.

“United we stand, divided we fall.”

JMonell

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SPOILERS AHEAD!

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I warned you! If you have not seen THE LAST JEDI yet….wait to read this until you do.

 

 

Last chance.

 

 

 

I was seven when my father took me to see STAR WARSA NEW HOPE in a theater on Route 46 in Totowa, NJ.  We stood online for nearly an hour, hoping to get tickets.  Dad was super excited, but I had no idea how much the movie would influence me… for the rest of my life.

My son was seven when The Force Awakens debuted in theaters.  My husband and I sat on either side watching his expression of awe as the curtain lifted and the story unfolded.

And this weekend, we took him to see his first 3D movie, The Last Jedi.  I think it is my favorite of all the Star Wars movies.

And this is why.

The Last Jedi highlights the duality of human/alien nature and sets it on a collision course with the unknown.  Point of view is critical to the movie as we watch Rey listen to Luke’s story about what happened to Ben Solo.  And Luke’s story is different from Kylo Ren’s.  And Rey listens to both, seemingly without judgement.  And then she goes off to figure out the truth for herself, which leads her to understanding that she doesn’t know half of what she thinks she does.

A similar situation is presented between Poe Dameron and Admiral Holdo.  We’ve known Poe before and want to root for him, but it turns out that Leia, who we’ve known longer, who knows more, may be the side to root for, which left me as an audience member conflicted and unsure of how the story line would play out.  As Leia admonished Poe, I felt conflicted too.  What was she doing?  And then the explanation came and I had my “aha” moment.

The dual nature of light and dark is best represented by Luke’s fear of the dark side and Rey’s curiosity towards it.  Luke tells Rey of his desire to destroy the Jedi, believing that the need for balance and acceptance of both light and dark must overcome EGO.  Lesson one.  We are all connected by the same energy.  Being “great” means separation from the whole.  It is a risk that leads to chaos.

Rey dares to go where Skywalker told her not to, seeking to find out the truth about her parents.  And yet, the force does not reveal this truth to her, signaling that where she came from does not matter, but where she goes does.

And the setting for this illustration of duality is that the unexpected happens throughout the movie.  This element waylaid Finn and Rose as they tried desperately to save the last of the resistance.  The unexpected thwarts them their entire journey…yet things turn out okay for them.  Poe learns to control his impulsiveness and trust.  Leia learns to let go.  And Luke…learns to be who he is, not what he wants.

The Last Jedi is about faith and surrender.  No one is purely good, or evil.  And we do not have control over everything.  As Rose said, “We shouldn’t destroy those we hate, but save the ones we love.”  And those we love may embody the duality of light and dark.   We should not discard those who have wandered onto a dark path; yet we cannot control their outcome.  We can only love them.

And then we will be “the spark” that lights hope.

May the Force be with you.

JMonell